If you have never had the opportunity to see Tyler Perry’s movie, “Diary Of A Mad Black Woman” I suggest you see it. It’s a funny movie containing some pretty unfortunate truths about marriage and relationships. Are you mad about your husband or mad at your husband?
The simple definition of mad is insane. Yes marriage can and does drive some women to the point of insanity. Very often the word mad is used to reflect anger. For example, a wife might say that she is mad at her husband for staying out too late. The truth is she most likely is angry or disappointed at her husband rather than mad.
So maybe a better title for this article is the Diary Of an Angry Married Woman. Here is an excerpt from the diary;
“Today is another day of mixed emotions and disappointment with my husband and our marriage. I don’t know why I continue to believe that tomorrow or the next day or next week will be different. It’s like we take one step forward and two steps back.
I don’t know how much longer I can live this way. He makes promises to be different but breaks them not very long after making them. He ask for me to be patient while he changes but it’s been years in the making. Sometimes I want to put him and his belongings out with the trash.
How am I supposed to stay in the marriage when I’m the only one who is trying to make things better? He has no idea how close I’m to filing for divorce. I often times wish I could move out and let him come home and read my goodbye letter.
There are plenty of other fish in the sea and if he doesn’t start treating me better I will find someone else who appreciates me for who I’m and not what I can do for them.
I wish I had something good to write today but I’m afraid there is nothing good in my marriage today. I don’t expect anything good to write about tomorrow either.
Thanks for listening diary. At least I have someone to express my thoughts and feelings to. Good night!”
Are those words and feelings you can relate to? You are not alone.
So in the movie it’s no doubt that the wife struggles to keep her emotions in check. Unfortunately it’s more difficult in real life.
If your husband is driving you mad or shall I say insane, you must find a way to drive out the insanity before it drives you crazy. No marriage is perfect and yours will never be. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to accept mediocrity.
As simplistic as this might sound, don’t let anger and frustration overcome love and patience. You really are one step away from turning your marriage around.